When your son says he's a girl

Family ripped apart when religious beliefs defy trans narrative

I miss his laugh, being with him, talking with him about everyday things . . . teaching him how to bake, how to cook different things. There are so many things that we are to our children, not just their first teachers, but basically their first loves. And to miss out on that during such formative time in his life, we’ll never get that time back. 

. . . The mental health support services that we experienced were, very much, following an agenda of affirmation only, which for our family, was not going to resolve our child’s issues. (Emphasis added.)

Mary Cox in an interview about her son who was removed from their Catholic home by the Indiana Department of Child Services (DCS) because his parents would not use “gender-affirming” language.

Imagine being parents who do not want to call their male child by a female name or vice versa. Until recently, this would have been considered normal and the parents would be considered responsible and caring. Today, things are “radical”ly different.

Mary and Jeremy Cox lost custody of their 16-year-old son, who was suffering from anorexia, when the DCS learned that his Catholic parents would not use a feminine name or feminine pronouns with their biological son, Greg Piper reported for Just the News. Not only did they remove him from his home, but they accused the parents of child abuse. Despite the allegations of abuse being dropped, the Coxes were not given their child back. 

As the Coxes explained, in the video below, they had done their research and concluded that using affirming language would not help their son. Despite being cleared of the abuse allegations, DCS claimed that their refusal to use “gender-affirming” language would make their son’s anorexia worse. During the 2-3 hours of weekly visitation they were granted they were not allowed to discuss gender. Indiana court decisions supported the DCS decision not to return the child to his parents.  

No questions asked - transition industry worth millions of dollars

The Coxes' son might have been like many children and young adults who believe they are trans after looking up their emotional difficulties online, or speaking with government school counselors, and becoming convinced that their emotional challenges will disappear if they only change genders. The woman in the below video who transitioned at about 18 years of age and de-transitioned back to her biological female sex (her deep voice being a consequence of the testosterone she took for 17 months) said that she was convinced online that the difficulties she was experiencing were because she was trans.

No one questioned her motivation for transitioning, not Planned Parenthood which handed her a testosterone prescription nor the doctor and insurers who approved her for “top surgery” to remove her breasts (she is thankful she didn't). She explains that no one questions the process because the entire system is built around supporting transitioners, which itself is the result of the money involved: 

. . . they hated how it was so easy form them to do such serious harm to their body with no one essentially stopping them to question them. . . . {T]hey are correct, because when you think about it, the trans industry is a multi-million, probably multi-billion dollar industry, and if you think they actually care about you and whether or not you are happy with your transition or it actually is successful for you in the long run, you are @#$ mistaken. They do not give a s–t, they are there to make money off of you, okay, all the therapists that say that … they affirm you, there are affirming therapists, . . . They’re not there question you if you say you think you're trans. They're not there to poke and prod at you and see if maybe there’s some other issue . . . 

If these people are making money off of you, do you seriously think that they're going to tell you about all the horror stories and people who aren't satisfied?

Freedom of religion and parental rights at stake

The Coxes have appealed to the Supreme Court to hear their case, where the Becket Religious Liberty law firm is representing them. They are “asking the high court to ‘hold the state accountable for keeping their child out of their home.’” Piper explained that they are making the case that their child was withheld from them on an ideological basis, which violates the First Amendment right to freedom of speech and religion.

. . . In their filing, the petitioners noted that Indiana “found the parents fit but still removed the child over an ideological dispute.” 

“Although Indiana found all allegations of abuse and neglect unsubstantiated, it refused to return [the child] home, substituting the judgment of the state for that of admittedly fit parents,” the filing said. 

Joe Davis for Becket Law further explained the rationale behind the couple's lawsuit, citing religious liberty and parental rights.

Since the Coxes' son had aged out of the system, the importance of the Supreme Court hearing their case takes on even more significance. Piper quoted Becket Law's explanation that if the court refuses to hear their case then it would give a green light to state governments to remove children from their homes and hold them until they age out of the system, without any possibility of appealing the decision. 

If the high court does not tackle Indiana's mootness argument, "all child welfare cases will become unreviewable when the child turns 18," the brief says – a "textbook" example of governments circumventing judicial review despite no indication they'll change behavior.

Adoption — a privilege only for the gender-affirming?

Piper referenced other cases where governments punished speech related to biological sex, including the following case, being heard in Oregon, filed by Jessica Bates who wants to adopt two siblings under 10. The state, however, wants to limit adoption to individuals who are accepting of both speech and drug-related affirmation.

The 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals is considering something of a prequel: whether Oregon can refuse adoption to families who will not affirm a child's gender identity, including refusal to give them "hormone shots" if the Beaver State so requests.

A trial court denied a motion for preliminary injunction by widow Jessica Bates, a mother of five who seeks to adopt foster siblings under age 10, against the Oregon Department of Human Services, which requires adoptive parents to accept both speech- and drug-related affirmations.

House attempts to bail out on trans health care funding

Some of the promotion for gender-affirming health care may be reduced if federal funds for medications and surgeries dry up. As Health Affairs Forefront reported, two bills were passed in July 2023, and a third bill was released, that would prohibit the federal government and insurers from funding gender-affirming health care including surgeries. Although they have not become law as of yet

[t]he House passed two bills and released a third bill that would impact gender-affirming care coverage for Medicare, Medicaid, TRICARE, the Indian Health Service (IHS), and the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA). Together, these sources cover more than 40 percent of people in the US. The three bills will ban virtually all federal sources from covering gender-affirming hormones and surgeries.

Protect your children —  government seizures

Zach De Gregorio, of Wolves and Finance, reviewed the Coxes' case (@11:31), discussing the alleged sexual improprieties of Joe and Hunter Biden, signs that the government is coming after children in order to gain control and power, and the need to protect children:

What Chloe should have known when she thought she was a boy

To understand more about gender dysphoria, why someone might believe they are supposed to be the opposite sex, and the emotional and biological issues that may be involved in their thinking they are the opposite sex, watch the video below, “The Wounds That Won't Heal | Detransitioner Chloe Cole | EP 319” in which Jordan Peterson talks with Chloe Chole, a de-transitioner who has been speaking out about her transition when she was 12 years old.